I want you to use your imagination for a minute. Imagine that you are at a coffee shop. You see an attractive person of interest sitting reading a book. Your mind begins to race with all the things you could possibly say to this person to get their attention. You work up the courage. You are feeling hyped and positive about this interaction. You walk up to her. She glances up and sees you. You greet her with a slight smile. She smiles back. You say, “Hi.” and introduce yourself. She says, “Hi, not interested.”
What feelings are coming up for you? What thoughts are coming up for you? What would you do?
Yes, this might sound like an extreme form of rejection, but I know this has happened to a number of us guys. Continue reading “Overcoming Sensitivity to Rejection”
As I hammered into the heavy bag with my fists and feet, sweat pouring down my face in this raw, uncut gem of a gym I could see this young man out of the corner of my eye following suit. The bell rings time to rest. As we both relax before the next round of bag work. The young man asks me my age, I laugh and divulge. He has this puzzled look on his face, I am intrigued so I ask him, “What is with the confused look?”. He states how he thought I looked younger than that. Always a nice compliment to hear. We begin to talk and converse sharing little things about ourselves. Asking inquisitive questions of each other. Bell rings back to training. Continue reading ““No Man Is An Island””
Written by: John Glass
Boundary setting might be one of the most overlooked or abused parts in a relationship. They have been shown to be one of the most important parts of a relationship. According to Murray Bowen, a well-known psychologist, boundaries are essential for healthy relationships because without them dysfunction occurs. Continue reading “Where You End and Others Begin”
Written By: Jeff Craig
No you are not on the wrong blog site. No this is not a home improvement article. Today I will be talking about two different ways men act in relationships and why one way is better than the other. I will be discussing what a floor mat is and what a door is in relation to men and how they behave in their relationships.
First, let me start out with a story. A client of mine came to be because he was looking for a long term, meaningful relationship with a woman. He explained to me that when he starts dating a woman, it appears that everything is going great. He takes them on fancy dates, he does romantic gestures, and they text each other all day long. But after a few weeks, the woman seems to back off. She is quiet on dates, she doesn’t seem impressed by the romantic gestures, and rarely responds to his text messages. Continue reading “The Difference Between a Floor Mat and a Door”
Written By: Jeff Craig
Anyone who knows me, knows I am a HUGE fan of Star Wars. Ever since childhood, I have embraced the story that took place in a galaxy far far away.
As a kid, I loved the story made of heroes with swords made of light, who flew around the galaxy fighting for good. I remember having light saber duels in my back yard with friends. In the background played music from the movies. I imagined I was a powerful Jedi who would save the galaxy from the evil Sith Darth Vader. I would have Star Wars marathons with my friends where we would watch all the movies in succession. I collected toys, trading cards, and played all the video games. Needless to say, Star Wars was a huge part of my life. Continue reading “Star Wars Showed Me Great Life Lessons”
Written by: Jeffrey Craig
Last year was my 10-year high school reunion. It would be the first time I have seen individuals since graduation.
As I pondered the idea of becoming reacquainted with old “friends,” I began to feel anxious. My mind started thinking about how I would be perceived after all this time. I am not married, I have no kids, I am not a millionaire, and I don’t have a big house.
Questions come up like, “What have I done with all this time?” “How will I measure up to everyone else?”
While everyone else has most likely reached at least one of these milestones, I had nothing to show for 10 years. Or did I? Continue reading “Rushing Life Leads to Dying: How to Live a More Fulfilling Life”
Written By: Jeff Craig
It was about 7:30 in the evening. I had spent the whole day running errands and doing chores around the house.
My excuse for not running was the heat, however, when it cooled down, my excuse changed that it was dark. Today was my last day of vacation before going back to work and I was NOT looking forward to the grueling week that awaited me.
A large part of me wanted to throw on a movie, order a pizza, and crack open a cold beer. This was usually my fall back behavior when I decide to “fall off the wagon.”
This time was different though. This time I was going to stick to my commitments and drop those dreaded pounds. Continue reading “Running Blind: 3 Things I learned in the Dark”