Got your attention, good. I want to talk about some myths that our society has attached to the sexual nature of a man. Throughout many of my conversations with men and women about sex, I have heard a number of comments about what a man should be when it comes to his sexual nature. Continue reading “There Is More To Men Than Just Sex”
We all had fears as children. I am sure if I asked you to name some, you would give me a laundry list of things that scared you.
For me, it was heights. I was never the kid to climb trees or jump off a high dive. I couldn’t even get on a roller coaster until I was about 15. The fear of plummeting to my death scared the living crap out of me.
As I got older, the fear of heights became less and less intense. Until eventually, I could hardly even feel anxiety anymore. Nowadays, I’m a thrill seeker, so it would not be uncommon to find me diving off a cliff or bungee jumping off a bridge. Continue reading “Overcoming My Fear Of Success”
As a child, I loved to play sports. Football was my favorite. I recall many times playing in the neighborhood bouncing off cars or trees. One of my fondest memories was that it would take four of the guys to bring me down when I had the ball.
I did not excel in organized sports and there were a number of reasons why such as, not being committed to the practicing, learning, and mastering of the sport.
I am sure that many of us recall being a part of some sport’s team when we were younger or maybe it was another discipline like karate. Some men excelled, some were average, and some just wanted to quit and leave.
For me I had little interest in sticking to an organized sport. I loved being active with friends by: playing football, baseball, basketball, going fishing, bowling, and many other things.
When it came to organized sports I just could not commit to the time and energy. As well as, the fact that my father was not around, so I had no male guidance or encouragement to help me understand why it is important to commit to mastering a discipline. Continue reading “Mastering A Discipline Enhances You As A Man”
Last year was my 10-year high school reunion. It would be the first time I have seen individuals since graduation.
As I pondered the idea of becoming reacquainted with old “friends,” I began to feel anxious. My mind started thinking about how I would be perceived after all this time. I am not married, I have no kids, I am not a millionaire, and I don’t have a big house.
Questions come up like, “What have I done with all this time?” “How will I measure up to everyone else?”
Masculinity was something I knew little about as a child. I grew up with a single mother and an absent father. The closest person in my family that embodied masculinity to me was my older brother.
The issue with my brother being my perspective of masculinity was that he was an angry, aggressive jerk. I told myself that I would never want to be like him. In my black or white thinking that meant that, I would need to be the exact opposite of him.
It is my belief that many of us men tend to choose the path of a passive man that allows many to use them as doormats or to become the aggressive man that pushes back with or without a reason. Continue reading “Self-Taught Ways of Manhood”
I have found that the hardest thing to forgive myself for is being a man in today’s society. Let me tell you why.
Many of us men grew up with our mothers being our primary caretaker. We also, were taught from grade school through college by female teachers. For this reason, we lacked guidance from men in our lives.
For instance, in one of my college classes on family violence the professor talked endlessly about how men abuse and/or rape. They would bring up all these statistics about the rates of violence and rape. One day after class I jokingly said to a peer, “Seems like this professor thinks that 50% of men abuse and 50% of men rape. Which one are we?” Continue reading “Hardest Thing To Forgive Myself For”
Recently, I read an article on EliteDaily.com entitled “Why Friends Who Are D*cks To Each Other Have The Strongest Friendships” (http://elitedaily.com/life/friends-dcks-are-the-greatest/1313596/) and I felt strongly compelled to share my perspective on this topic.
According to the article, men who insult or “poke fun” at their friends have stronger relationships than those who are not. I am curious where this research came from.
It all started out as a way to support a friend going through a tough time, but to my surprise, my life dramatically changed in just one short month.
If you’ve ever dabbled around the self-help genre online, surely you’ve seen articles revolving around some sort of 30-day challenge. These short experiments are meant to be a catalyst for a healthier lifestyle.